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My thoughts right now [Apr. 20th, 2004|07:31 pm]
Sichernde_Seele
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I was reading someone's LJ. I won't say we're friends as we've never met. However, I have a lot of respect for her and enjoy reading her journal.

A post she made sparked a thought process that I want to get out of my system, without replying as if in argument.

When a hetero couple lives together for x number of years, depending on their state laws, they are considered having entered a common law marriage. If something were to happen to one of them (extended hospital stay, death, etc) that can be used in court.

On the other hand, take a same-sex couple who have been living together for 30 years and, barring understanding or sympathetic family, friends, doctors, etc....they have no rights. If one has given birth, the other can be found with no grounds for getting custody of their child.

So, while I agree that the marriage argument of family pressure to get married vs. friends pressure to not get married, I cannot concede that the gay and lesbian community has it easier because they don't have those pressures.

It boils down to all communities have pressures surrounding relationships. Those are put upon us all by society. At the end of the day, one has a choice and the other doesn't.
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From: satia
2004-04-20 07:32 pm (UTC)

:P

It was written tongue in cheek but I think, unless there is someone else on your friends list . . .

I shall take the compliment as intended. :)
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[User Picture]From: sichernde_seele
2004-04-21 02:43 am (UTC)

Re: :P

Good. :)

I enjoyed the post. It brought up some deep feelings in me that I wanted to vent out. However, I don't argue your point at all. My family was the same way and has never had much appreciation for the way I did things. Three marriages later....

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