|Animal, vegetable or mineral?
||[Jun. 23rd, 2004|04:38 am]
|||||Cowboy Junkies - no long journey home||]|
I was having a conversation with my roomates tonight. Just about stuff. They got some rotten news today and we were brainstorming solutions and possible obstacles.
I love these talks. It's 3am and we're sitting in the garage hashing out our lives over some coffee and smokes and just a general sense of "Wow, we have a lot of love here".
Today we crushed the childrens' world. We've been having a lot of battles revolving around food/mealtimes. Now, food is a battle I had long since given up on. For various reasons. The biggest one was that I'd heard if I kept pushing my daughter to eat, at some point, it may ver well become a control issue resulting in various eating disorders. So I let go of that battle and chose not to fight it. She'll eat when she's hungry and if she has choices of 3 things on her plate, chances are she won't hate everything.
Now, my niece and nephew have medical conditions that sometimes do inhibit their ability to eat. So there are times that it is only soft foods or nutritional drinks like PediaSure. That's a given....but that's not our problem.
My daughter, who I suspect at times had to have been switched at birth, is this insanely picky eater. Won't touch most green vegetables. Salad is evil to her. Sometimes, she ate something last week and won't touch it all of the sudden.
My niece tends to suddenly develop a "tummy ache" and then somehow is magically no longer full if junk food is made available.
My nephew has had a host of problems revolving around food for a long time....not a new thing.
My son, well, he really is a good eater. He's tired of a few foods, but I get that way myself. So I can't fault him there.
Here's what we did. We got tired of the kids saying "We're hungry, we're hungry", but refusing meals for whatever excuse so pleased them at the time. Then asking for cookies, crackers, pudding, anything unhealthy that they could get their hands on. Then by the next meal they were "full" from snacking so much. So we put our foot down. We told them that from now on, all "snacks" will be veggies, fruit or cheese. Then they watched, in horror, as we boxed up all the crap in the pantry to give to a shelter. So, maybe with less temptation to snack on junk and a realization that "I'm Hungry" is still going to result in healthy food, we'll get some kids eating! Last night, Morgan did try a cucumber. After years of telling her "They are soooo good", she finally tried it and loved it. See???? Mommy is right sometimes.
During our discussion of various stuff, I pointed out something. Typically, in my experience, "roomates" are just people you live with. They may be good friends, but they usually come with a host of issues that just drive you crazy. I realized that in my time here, the biggest problem I've had is that my upstairs "Neighbor" (read: Partner In Crime), will sometimes use the last of the toilet paper in the middle of the night and not go downstairs to get another roll or package. There's not a single one of the typical issues I've had in the past with roomates. We're family. We treat each others kids just like we would our own. We talk when we need to talk. We close ourselves off when we need to hide from the world. We respect each other and work as a functioning, not so nuclear family. That's a pretty big change from just having "roomates".
I've known those two for over 10 years. We've had our ups and downs, and at some point, we became a family.